Nicki Minaj

I’m sorry but can someone (absolutely anyone will do!) please tell me what the BIG fascination with this woman is?

It is just I’m having GREAT difficulty understanding why everyone likes her so much.

And no I’m not trying to be a hater but compare her to females rappers like Eve, Foxy Brown and dare I say it even Lil’ Kim (actually I’m not too sure about her but anyways...) there is nothing special about her.

I have TRIED to listen to a couple of her songs but I just couldn’t do it! I think it’s her voice that I find extremely annoying.

Either way I don’t understand why everyone thinks she is that great.
Or maybe it is just me and I missed the memo that everyone else seems to have received on her greatness. It like she has been able to get the attention Lil’ Mama WANTED from that stupid MTV Music Awards stunt!

But if there is a memo or something that is floating about then please kindly pass it along to me...thank you!

And... Maybe I’ll even CHANGE my opinion!

Until then I think I would rather stick to REAL female rappers like Eve and Foxy Brown...

Con Amor,

Gemma Ama


He Can’t Love U...Can’t He Really?

Before I start this entry....I want to make one thing clear and that is I am a HUGE Jagged Edge fan!

So this post is not intended to offend any of their fans because that would mean I’m insulting myself as well!

True JE fans will know what I am talking about. The group’s second album J.E. Heartbreak (personally to me the best JE album ever released...does anyone remember Promise or Let’s Get Married?)

Anyways back to the point of this post...on this album there is a song called He Can’t Love U. Listening to my I-Pod one night the song started to play and I really started LISTENING to the lyrics.

Suddenly I started to get very ANNOYED at the lyrics... Let me show you what I am talking about:

I ain't no hata or nothing
But he can't love you like I can
Trust me

Ooh, ooh, ooh

As the clock strikes twelve
I'm sitting here wondering how the hell
Did I let you leave
And baby I know that I did my share
Of things to deceive you
I'm just trying to get an understanding
Of what to do
Cause I'm half way going crazy
Girl they can't fade me

He can't love you like I love you
Baby you know it too
And you should never wanna be with a man
If he can't be a man
And do the things to you like I can

He can't love you like I love you
Baby you know it too
And you should never wanna be with a man
If he can't be a man
And do the things to you like I can

I stop, and I wait, and I think
That I never met someone to make me feel
Like I'm ready to love
So I gotta do what I gotta do
Just to keep you
Keep you here with me baby
Now I feel it's time for me to say
That I need you boo
And I can't go a day without your loving
Baby I can't live without you

I know you know
No matter if you want it baby
Ain't no ifs, or buts, or maybes
And I know that one day
You'll see that he can't really love you
Like I love you

He can't love you like I love you
Baby you know it too
And you should never wanna be with a man
If he can't be a man
And do the things to you like I can

He can't love you like I love you
Baby you know it too
And you should never wanna be with a man
If he can't be a man
And do the things to you like I can

He can't, he can't love you girl
He's never gonna love you girl
Like I love you girl

He can't, he can't love you girl
He's never gonna love you girl
Like I love you girl

He can't, he can't love you girl
He's never gonna love you girl
Like I love you girl

He can't, he can't love you girl

He can't love you like I love you
Baby you know it too
And you should never wanna be with a man
If he can't be a man
And do the things to you like I can
I have put the lyrics that really peeded me off in bold so you know what part I’m referring to throughout the post.

Let’s start with the first verse “I ain't no hata or nothing...” If you are not hating then why say what you are about to say anyways? Hmmm...

“And baby I know that I did my share of things to deceive you” What I am having trouble understanding here KNOW the hurt you have caused to the lady in question in the past yet you still have the cheek to basically come back and cause her further pain because you have finally come to your senses and realised what you had along?
Call me but that seems pretty messed up to me and it is probably the most selfish thing you do to someone you “claim” to love.
The famous old saying “You don’t realise what you have until it has gone.” springs to my mind here.

To add fuel to fire the third verse “He can't love you like I love you...” really just confirms the selfishness to the highest degree. How do you of ALL people know he won’t be able to love me better than you did?
I think he will probably do a BETTER job than you did...since he knew what he wanted and went after it. He SHOWED he cared! So...sorry if you think that but you had your chance and you WASTED it!

“I stop, and I wait, and I think that I never met someone to make me feel like I'm ready to love”, “That I need you boo and I can't go a day without your loving...Baby I can't live without you”
These lyrics have helped emphasis my argument and allow me to sum up what I have ranting about all this time which is basically...

As human beings, we sometimes tend to neglect what we want/need the most in our lives but when we lose it then we abruptly want it back. Like it’s our entitlement or something!

Unfortunately that is not always the case...We all have choices in life and we have to live with the consequences of these actions. If we realised we made a mistake and want to change it then we have to accept the fact that it’s not our choice to decide what happens anymore... I know it’s unfair but karma is a bitch!

Again I would like to emphasise how much I LOVE Jagged Edge but I just have a problem with the lyrics of this song because of the message it conveys to listeners...
If anything should be taken away from this entry it is that we need to careful how we treat the things we value in our lives because if we are not careful we will eventually LOSE it!

And if we are not lucky enough it may not come back to us...

Side note: I absolutely LOVED their concert yesterday (I would definitely do it again even if it was shorter than I hoped it would be...) but I was just slightly disappointing that they only played a small selections of their classic hits.
Also loved their rendition of Keith Sweat's Right and a Wrong Way
WARNING: There is someone who sounds like a strangled cat please try and ignore them!

Con Amor,

Gemma Ama


Can Love and Logic Not Exist Together?

I was on Facebook recently when I saw the status below:

“I guess loving someone is a continuous battle between the heart and mind - logic and emotion. The best way to handle it? Balance the two.”

I agreed with it completely
UNTIL I saw the following respond someone put to it:

Love and logic can’t be in the same isn't logical, when you try and make it logical you end up twisting the love, for yourself and the person receiving it...then you get left with nothing but emptiness and resentment.

It got me thinking...can love and logic not exist together?

But I think it has to...I know you can’t make love
“logical” but why shouldn’t love and logic exist together?
After all isn’t it the logical thing to have the heart and mind working together...right?

Isn’t that what protects us from getting hurt in the end?

However I strongly believe the status
HAS to true when it come to matters of the heart because if you are not logical when it comes to love you can end up getting hurt if you are not careful. This hurt and pain can lead to heartache which as we all know can equal to you becoming resentful.

Resentment is a terrible thing to have. It can turn us into bitter individuals because of ONE PERSON’s mistake. I know letting go of the past is an extremely difficult to do (I’m still battling it myself) BUT the more we hold onto the past the harder it is for us to move on with our lives, it can also cause us to rob OURSELVES of true love and happiness from someone who genuinely deserves it.

Remember going through life a bitter lemon
is always going to turn us sour people with empty lives.
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” – Catherine Ponder

Logical thinking is what keeps us sane in relationships. It is as simple as that.

If we didn’t go into relationships with our eyes WIDE open then we would get hurt... we HAVE to be logical in certain situations otherwise we would ACCEPT behaviour that is unacceptable and tolerate things we never thought we would allow another human being to do to us for the sake of “love.

You have to draw the line somewhere and when doing this “love” doesn’t come into it!

A classic example of what I’m talking is being in a relationship with someone that you “love” even though they
DON’T deserve your love!

When it comes to this person you let your heart (which can mislead you) control the situation and not your mind... it is like no matter what this person does to you, you stay hoping things will go back to the way they use to be UNFORTUNATELY that is not the case... If it was meant to work out then it would.

“What's meant to be will always find a way.” – Trisha Yearwood

“If you love someone let them go. If they stay away then they were never yours to begin with. If they come back then they are yours to keep.” – Unknown

In some circumstances you have to cut your losses and

You have to be logical otherwise reacting purely on emotions can have dangerous consequences...
The longer we as individuals try to separate these two essential elements for the sake of “love” instead of letting them work in harmony with one another (like they are meant to) the longer you will continue to get hurt.

Love is a great thing to have but sometimes you just have to realise enough is enough!
If you willing to accept things that you usually
DETEST then ask yourself this...How much more can you take before you reach breaking point? And will it even be worth it in the end?

It is
ALL about balancing the two “the heart and mind - logic and emotion.” Allowing them to work in perfect harmony TOGETHER!

Depending on the situation (of course!) because sometimes you JUST have to act then think later.
But when you do need to use both (use your personal judgment to assess when this is necessary)
If you don’t it would like trying to force something that is meant to be together like bread and butter to be chalk and cheese which is IMPOSSIBLE!

Con Amor,

Gemma Ama


If Fashion Was Porn, This Dress Would Be The Money Shot!

First I would like to apolgise to all my readers (if I have any..) for my random disappearing act but between working full time, birthdays and the madness that is my life I've been neglecting my blog of late. So sincere apologises for now and the near future as it will (probably) happen again!

I know I am like a week behind of this but oh well that what happens when you such a procrastinator!

The Oscars...

As most of us know The Oscars is an important evening to give credit to actors, directors etc on the extraordinary work they have done but personally I'm more concerned with the dresses...

Here are my favourites from the 82nd Annual Academy Awards.

Gabourey Sidibe in Marchesa - The title of this blog entry was inspired by Miss Precious when asked to describe her dress by Ryan Seacrest. Big girls are doing it too!

Jennifer Lopez in Armani Prive
Miley Cyrus in Jenny Packham
Queen Latifah

Cameron Diaz in Ocsar de la Renta

Kristen Stewart in Monique Lhuiller

Penelope Cruz in Donna Karan

Demi Moore in Atelier Versace

Sandra Bullock in Marchesa
- Well done Sandra! I can't wait to watch the film when it comes out in the UK.

Zoe Saldana in Givenchy and Carey Mulligan in Prada - These two dresses have me on the fence, its like they are both so right yet so wrong. I'm loving the top half of Zoe's dress and I LOVE Carey's dress but it would have worked better without the asymmetric line.

Meryl Streep in Chris March and Helen Mirren in Badgley Mischka - Showing that with age you can only get better. Hard to believe they are in their 60's!

I'm back and loving it!

Oh I forgot to add... well done to Mo'Nique for winning Best Supporting Actress you really deserved it!

To go from doing comedies that create (sometimes painful) belly laughs to playing such an emotional twisted character shows your diversity as up and coming actress (just don't forgot the comedies altogether.)

Con Amor

Gemma Ama