There is one thing that I have realised about this generation and that is we don’t understand the meaning of a true relationship. I’m not talking about the sugar coated lovey dovey FALSE kind of stuff we all see through the Media nowadays.


I’m talking about the old fashioned love our great grandparents and grandparents had...The without a second thought for themselves UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

In this day and age that we are growing up it seems like we have lost that sense of what it really means to be in a loving, fulfilling relationship with another human being.


“Your choice in partner is an extension of who you are, where you are going and where you want to be in life so who you choose to be with represents who you truly are as an individual.” – Gemma Ama

I have a friend let’s call him Mr. Chupa Whupa for this entry...

There was a stage when Mr. Chupa Whupa was in a relationship that he no longer wanted to be but he chose to stay in it. He justified it to me by claiming that he cared deeply about the female in the question and if he stayed with her things would eventually work between them. In his words....“He would ‘grow’ to love her”
Since when was love about forcing yourself to feel something that wasn’t there to begin with?

Pardon me if I’m wrong here but if a relationship isn’t working what makes you think staying in it without discussing the problems within it will make it any better? The above statement from him made me realise that people our age group don’t understand what being in a real profound relationship is and also we are starting to act older than we actually are but that is a separate issue altogether...All the same it is still wrong!

Realistic why do need to be in a relationship just for the sake of it at our age?

It doesn’t and NEVER WILL make any sense but it seems like a very common and recurring issue in a large majority of relationships with individuals in the age group of 16 to 20 year olds. (And sometimes even older!)

One thing about Mr. Chupa Whupa is he doesn’t like being alone. I don’t know why but he is just one of those people who always NEEDS to be in a relationship even though his reasons for actually being in it are more for his benefit rather than if he actually likes the girl or not.
I’m sure we all know someone like that.

Another thing I’m trying to work out is why some of us always feel the strong desire to constantly be in a relationship even when it is purely for the sake of having COMPANIONSHIP from another individual...Is it the influence of society, a personal issue that some of us have to deal with or the fear of being alone?

But my question is what is so wrong with being alone?

Especially at this age!?!... in fact this time in our lives is the PERFECT TIME to EMBRACE being alone!
Before all the responsibilities of getting older come along...Working, bills and children!

It’s scary to think that we don’t really get to enjoy the most of our carefree lives properly anymore.
(That is a completely new blog entry in itself..)

If there are people out there who manage to be by themselves (sometimes by choice) for most if not all their lives then why can’t we as young adults manage to be alone until we are genuinely ready to commit to another human being PROPERLY and whole heartily?

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.” - Wayne W. Dyer

We need to remember that we cannot have a fulfilling relationship with others until we like the person we are and have established a meaningful PERSONAL relationship with ourselves FIRST!
“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows.” – Ben Stein

It’s just something to think about...

Con Amor,

Gemma Ama



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