You Have to Get Burnt Before You Learn!

You must be thinking what the hell is she going on about?


Following a conversation I had with a dear friend of mine about a certain situation I was in she made the statement above. The statement stuck with me as I was slightly confused by what it meant (and kind of wishing it wasn’t true). This a rough outline of the statement she made since I can’t remember it all!

“He can tell how many times he doesn’t like what you are doing but at the end of the day it is up to you! Just look at how many times I’ve told you I don’t want to carry on in this situation but have you listen to me? *Long agreed pause* Yeah and that is because at the end of the day you are not going to listen to me. I have given you my opinions on this situation numerous times but you
HAVEN’T listened. When you want to get out of this situation then you will. It’s as simple as this have to get burnt before you learn!”

It wasn’t until I reflected on my own situation that I really understood what my friend meant by the statement. Hence where the inspiration for this blog came from.

You see no matter how many times someone tells you about how bad a certain situation/ person is for you (whatever it maybe in your case...pick as appropriate)...

There is only one explanation for that and that is...YOU HAVE TO GET BURNT BEFORE YOU LEARN!

What I mean by this is you can be told various different times by various different people what you should do on a certain situation but you WON’T listen (trust me I’m one of those types of people myself).

Let me use relationships as an example. When we like someone and everyone around us is telling us he/she isn’t good for us, we still do what we want regardless. I think the reason for this is as human beings we like to think that people can change and that maybe this time round things will be different.

Unfortunately not.

Reality check...You can’t make someone change until they are
WILLING and READY to be changed themselves. I know its sucks but life’s a bitch.

“If life’s a bitch, better make everyday your wife” – Fabolous

I know this is hard to deal with. (I’m still getting my head around myself unfortunately)
We’ve all heard the saying “if you love someone let them go and if they come back...” That saying is similar to this. I know this is hard to do when we love someone and want to protect them from harm but you have to let go. Sometimes you have to allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from it. That is the best thing for people sometimes.

Letting them make these mistakes makes them a

The most important thing is you are there for them should things not work out the way they planned to with whatever it is you told them not to do.
And remember....they are probably feeling upset enough without you having to say “I told you so”

WON’T help them and 9 times out of 10, they will probably realise that you was right and appreciate the fact that you didn’t say (in my opinion) unhelpful phrase.

And ... if it is you who has to get burnt before you learn, please remember:

1.Making mistakes are a part of’s what you
LEARN from these mistakes that the most important thing.
2.Never regret the decisions you make, they are what made you the person you are today!
3.Everything happens for a reason...

The following are quotes I love to read because they keep me positive and inspire me in difficult times. I hope they can have the same effect on you that they had on me =)

“Vivere senza rimpianti” which is Italian and translates to “To live without regrets” Unknown

“The longest journey begins with a single step.” Unknown

“Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.” Danny Kaye

Con Amor,

Gemma Ama



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